Can I get sole custody?
Only by showing that the other parent's involvement concretely harms the child. Shared custody remains the rule, because the law wants both parents involved in decisions. Conflict between you is not enough, however high. Documented facts are needed: violence, neglect, addiction, prolonged absence. At the first consultation we look together at whether your picture would hold before a judge.
What's the difference between custody and residence?
Custody is about who decides; residence is about where the child lives. You can have shared custody — decisions on school, health and residence taken together — with the child living mainly with one parent and set time with the other. It's a distinction that confuses many people, and understanding it saves arguments over the wrong word.
At what age can a child choose who to live with?
There is no age at which they choose. From twelve the court must hear them, and earlier if they are mature enough, but what they say is one element of the decision, not the decision. A child can be heard and still have different arrangements ordered, where their interests require it.
How long is child maintenance paid for?
Until they are financially self-sufficient, which is not the same as turning eighteen. A child in education keeps the right to maintenance; one who refuses work opportunities without reason may lose it. It does not lapse automatically at majority: you have to apply to end it and show self-sufficiency.
Are extraordinary expenses always split equally?
Usually, but it isn't a fixed rule: a different proportion can be agreed where incomes are very unequal. The real point is different — list what they are and set who decides if you disagree. An agreement that says only "extraordinary expenses, 50/50" produces disputes for years, over every single item.
Can I move to another city with my child?
Not on your own. Under shared custody the child's residence is a decision for both parents. If the other disagrees you need the court's authorisation, and it will consider whether the move serves the child's interests or only yours. Moving first and explaining afterwards is the fastest way to lose credibility in proceedings.
The other parent isn't sticking to the agreed days: what can I do?
You can ask the court to intervene. The law provides for admonishment, compensation to the child or the other parent and, in serious cases, a change of custody arrangements. First, though, document it: note the dates, keep the messages. A dated list of incidents carries far more weight than a general account.
They took our child abroad without telling me: what happens now?
Call a lawyer immediately: in international abduction, days genuinely count. If the country is party to the Hague Convention you apply for immediate return, and the court where the child is decides only on that, not on custody. The more time passes, the harder it gets, because how settled the child has become also counts.